Recap of the last few months and WWIII

Wow, I can't believe it's been so long since I last posted. Ugh.

The kids' first day of school went great. Mercedes has an awesome teacher and her room is directly across the hall from Lincoln's preschool room, so he was thrilled! Mercedes' closest friends are also with her so she is having a great year so far. :0) Mercedes is learning so much and is doing awesome!!

Sierra has a great teacher as well and Leighton is with her again. She be-bops between friends, but that is going fine. She loves to read and is doing really well in school.

Lincoln loves preschool. The first days he kept telling me that "there's a big ol' grandma" in school. Turns out one of the teachers is about 60, so that's where he got that from. lol. He has Cyan with him as well as Hunter and Eli so he's in Heaven. He sits with Jake on the bus so he's thrilled! Amy said he does really well and plays with everyone, so I'm excited to hear that. We also have to go to ECFE and one of the moms told me that her little girl came home and said that Lincoln is her boyfriend. lol. It still never ceases to amaze me at how early that starts! lol.

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The girls' bdays went fine and their bday parties went really well. They were excited with all of their gifts and told everyone thanks a million times!!

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I have to say that things haven't been so good between my parents and myself. It all started way back when we added on the house. Mom and dad thought we'd never do it and now they are jealous. Things had been getting better, though. A few months ago they called and gave us exactly 3 days to let them know if we wanted to buy the farmland next to us as the rest was going up for auction on 11 09 07. Gulp. We said we are expanding our business to work on the pipeline and we don't have the money and how nice it was that they gave us 3 days to make a decision. Ugh. They told us they wouldn't charge us for 5 yrs and no interest acruing for those 5 yrs. We said we'd take it. The auction was on Friday and when I got home for lunch there were tire tracks all through our lawn! I called mom and said, "Man, there was some dumb*ss that drove on our lawn!" This started it all and it turns out it was dad. Yeah, no respect there, huh? Anyway, dad got on the phone and was swearing and ultimately hung up on me. I called mom back when I got to work and I said we must have gotten disconnected and she all out laughed and me and said dad hung up on me. I told her to tell dad that I really appreciated that. I hadn't spoken with them since Friday and it is Wednesday today. Last night mom called and asked if they could come over and I said we were eating supper. She said they would be over 10 minutes because dad had to leave that night yet. They came over and talked about some line fence and that the land boundaries are off by several feet. After that, mom looked at dad and told him to address the other issue. Dad got the devil look and started yelling at me for how bad I treat mom, etc. I didn't back down and said, "Oh, are you sure you want to start this?? Are you really sure you want to go? Let's go!" It was an all out war. Dad asked if I was sure I wanted the kids there and we said that we don't protect them from anything. He was yelling and yelling and I was yelling back. I told him how crappy he is for treating mom the way he does and that he belittles her all the time and he said that wasn't my business. I told him how he doesn't respect any of us and he started quoting the commandments and I told him that was crap because Jesus isn't looking down fondly on him at that moment and what a hypocrit he is. I have never, ever yelled at him like I did last night. He said no matter what I am to "honor thy father and mother" and I said I won't when I get kicked in the *ss how many times and that I'm done with it. The thing is, when I get stressed out, I need to vent to someone. I just want someone there to listen to me and tell me it will be ok and I'll get through it. I call mom and she says how I take on too much and that it's my own fault and I need to get myself out of it. Do you really think that's what I want to hear? So, mom takes it personally like I'm getting mad at her when I'm telling her how frustrated I am with all the paperwork I have to do, etc. So, dad hung the land over our heads and said that Santa Claus will get the land before we ever do. I wanted to tell him to shove the land where the sun doesn't shine, but I knew how much Jon wanted it. Dad got in my face and said, "Just say it Becky! Just say it Becky!! Say the word and the land is GONE!" I was "this close" to saying it, but I wouldn't because I knew Jon wanted it. Dad finally quit yelling and got his shoes on. Mom asked for a hug from Lincoln and at first he said no, but then he ran over and gave her one. On their way out the door, he yelled, "AND DON'T YOU 'LELL' AT MY MOMMY!!!!" He then smiled and ran and gave me a hug. It's amazing what a 3 yr old can pick up. Even my little Lincoln isn't afraid of Grandpa. I remember always being afraid of dad growing up and I've had it. We always walked on eggshells with him and I'm done. I'm done. I made it quite clear last night that I wasn't going to take his crap anymore and it was like he didn't know what to do. He commented on something on how bad I was treating him and I said, "Yep, dad, I learned from the best didn't I?!" He didn't like that at all. Dad kept trying to leave numerous times and mom kept pushing him back and telling him to get it resolved. I'm glad that it happened on my turf and it was their turn to leave. I'm sure he and mom got into to so bad in the car, but I'm tired of all of this. This may be the beginning of the end of our relationship. Like Jon said, mom and I will be fine. It will take awhile, but eventually we'll be fine.

As for me and dad. . . well, things will never be the same. I'm tired of his crap and I'm done. I'm done.

Peace.